2017 年 5 月 6 日
Do you agree or disagree with the following statement
It is impossible to be completely honest with your friends all the time.?
5 月 6 日这场托福考试的独立写作题既普通又特别。普通之处在于它重复 2011 年 12 月17 日的原题。特别之处在于它又是一道关于友谊的题目。
最近关于友谊的独立写作题出现得确实有些频繁，从 4 月 1 日的“朋友犯错是否该继续这段友谊”到和 15 日的“该交聪明的朋友还是幽默的朋友”，再到今天这场“能否对朋友一直诚实”，friend 或者?friendship?真有点刷屏的嫌疑。
不过，ETS 喜欢刷同类题，早在 4 月 15 日这场的解析中我就指出过，当时我的原话如下：
另外还有个刷存在感的词是诚实 -?honesty，这个词在今年第一场 1 月 7 日托福考试出现，当时问的是?Do you agree or disagree: If you are selecting a leader for a student
organization, honesty is the most important to consider in deciding whom to vote for.你同意不同意：投票选择学生组织的领导时，我们最需要去考虑的是诚实。
Although a vast majority of people agree that how to choose right friends and build healthy relationships with them is especially important, they are split in their opinions over what is the most important consideration in a friendship. Among all the possible considerations, always telling the truth is taken into account by not a few people. Then, is it possible to be always completely honest with your friends? The answer is, as far as I am concerned, surely in the affirmative.
It is true that being completely honest might hurt our friend's feelings. Take a frequently-occurred situation as an example. Alvin's friend Kikyou, who buys a new outfit for a birthday party, asks him, "Does it look good on me?" Alvin, based on the fact, says, "No way! It makes you look ten pounds heavier." Upon hearing his answer, Kikyou may return him with a hostile glare. Indeed, these truthful words, to a large extent, are not pleasing to a friend's ears, though they might be said with the best intentions. Nevertheless, a true friend is willing to tell us the truth, no matter what. And if we get irritated or even indignant, we do not really respect him or her and treat him or her as a true friend. Moreover, a true friend, knowing we might not be so comfortable with negative comments, would certainly choose to answer in a gentle but not brutal way. Alvin would say he is partial to the one Kikyou wore yesterday to show his unfavorable view of that outfit.
Most importantly, friendships, especially long-term ones, are not built in one day. Regular flattery or flat-out lies may help us forge new friendships or even maintain those relationships for a period of time, yet only by being completely honest to those we feel and care will the friendship stand the test of time and stay stable for a sizable chunk of life, or even for our whole life. This is because complete honesty can build up mutual trust between friends. As long as trust keeps a constant presence, misunderstandings or obstacles to any friendship can be avoided and removed if occurring.
In conclusion, I disagree with the statement, and I highly recommend that everyone should have the courage to blurt out any truthful words. Just make sure to respond without jealousy or anger.?
If you are selecting a leader for a student organization, honesty is the most important to consider in deciding who to vote for.
A/DA: Getting advice from friends who are older than you is more valuable than getting advice from friends your same age.
2016 .07. 02
A/DA: Competition between friends usually negatively impacts friendships.
Which do you think is the best way for a student to make friends: joining a sports team, participation in community activities, or traveling?
A/DA:?It is better to make friends who are intelligent than with a good sense of humor.
A/DA: It is often not a good idea to move to a new city or a new country because you will lose old friends.